Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Everyday in May: Honesty is the key

First of all, I'm behind on comments again, but will catch up over the weekend. I'm buried with articles until then. I really appreciate all of your kind words, and will check out your blogs in return very soon.

Today's prompt for "Blog Every Day in May" is: "A piece of advice you have for others. Anything at all." My best piece of advice for life in general is to always be honest to a fault. This is something I was trained with growing up, and it has always served me well.

Honesty is not just about telling the truth, but about living in honor. In fact, honor is the only thing you get to keep when you die. That's what my mother always told me. It's not enough to just tell the truth, but also to remove deception. Telling something that is technically the truth in words but still conceals the truth is not honest.

Even when you believe that a lie will be better for someone to save their feelings or make them happy, it will likely backfire in the end. Things may initially be OK, but the truth always comes out, and it is always worse after a lie. Conversely, the truth may feel bad in the beginning, but will allow the person hearing it to relieve themselves of any negative emotions right away and begin the healing process. And if it's small-ball stuff, that's not so difficult anyway.

When you lie, the person you lie to will usually have an inkling you have lied anyway, and then the negative emotions are allowed to pile up until they become venomous to everyone involved, including the person you lied to or were dishonest with. Even if it's a small thing, those annoyances will build up, and could even turn to hatred. So, just be honest every chance you get, and things will work out in the end.

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  1. I'm not sure I can embrace the "brutal honesty" philosophy. Too many people use that as their excuse for just being mean and dirty to people, and their response is always something like, "What? I was just being honest."

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    1. I never used those words. I don't think you should ever be mean for the sake of being mean. But if someone asks you a question, then I do think you should tell them the truth. If it's something like, "How do I look?" you don't have to say "You look stupid," or something like that. You can just tell them that you don't care for the outfit or something. You get the idea.

      If I don't want to hear what someone thinks, I won't ask them the question. If I do want to know, then I ask. If they lie to me, I have a hard time ever being friends with them because I know they will simply lie to me whenever I ask them anything. I appreciate friends who tell me the truth. I can't be friends with someone who lies to me all the time.

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  2. Yeah, I know you didn't use those words; it's just what it made me think of. I do think there is sometimes a division between "honesty" and "the truth." Which is not to say that I'm for lying, because I'm not. If you follow my book reviews for long enough, you'll certainly see that that's the truth.

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    1. Sorry I had sort of a knee-jerk reaction. I've been emotional this morning after believing my cat was lost. Turn out she was stuck in my across the street neighbor's garage. Whew! I'm just starting to feel normal again. :) Thank you for stopping by!

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    2. No problem. I haven't seen my cat all morning, either. Not since I let him out at 5am. Usually, he's around somewhere, but it's not like this hasn't happened before. I'm sure he'll turn up by dinner, because they always do, right?

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    3. Mine was gone since last night, even though she has been coming inside and sleeping with me at night for the past few weeks. So I was kind of a wreck all morning. She's an outdoor cat for the most part, so I probably shouldn't have stressed so much, but it's just not like her to do that. So now I know it really wasn't like her, because she was trapped. Poor baby.

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    4. I try to be honest too Kristen. Often as I respond to people though, I don't know what's true or even my own feelings about what they write. I have decided to be open and express my thoughts and feelings and often say something like: Here's how I approached it or worked through a health issue or a conflict with a physician or insurer. I have often had to seek advice from multiple sources and then choose what might work based on my knowledge of working with issues. I've also gained kind of a sense for knowing when someone really wants some advice. This has worked to entirely change behavior and attitudes many times. The main think I ask is will this help them and I have to put helping me or benefitting me aside. I really have found, like you, that honestly working with an attitude of being helpful and moving a person toward a re-examination of something builds strong people and relationships. I try these days to be more thoughtful and considerate of them. To be a good listener is usually, but not at always the best way. We almost lost our cat Amber too about two weeks ago. We went to pieces for an evening thinking we had sometimes let her get out into a bad snow storm. Four hours later we found her in a new hiding spot in a closet and we had already looked there. Black cats like our Miss Amber are very hard to see at night. We rejoiced because she is very loved and is an indoor cat. She would be unable to care for herself or find her way back if she got lost. We got very emotional just like you did. It took us about two days to calm down. Keep up your writing. I enjoy it very much.

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  3. anytime I have ever lied I have riddled myself with such guilt and rumination that I eventually wind up confessing...I am such a bad lier...thank GOD!

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  4. Lying takes a lot of effort to produce and then remember, lol! I don't like lies. Not my mode of operandi, either.

    If you ask me what I think of---whatever the subject is, I'll be honest. But I also will be tactful, meaning I choose my words and tone with care. Words can be sharper than a knife and the scars last far, far longer in the memory. Which is why I'm not into brutal honesty and that ISN'T what you were aiming at with this article. But are those that think being honest means it's okay to be unvarnished and even brutal in word choices and tone.

    Honor demands speaking truth rather than lies but it also demands having a care for people's feelings and employing the golden rule of treating others as we would like to be treated.

    My mom, like yours, always said a lie by omission is still a lie and deceptive. Oh, we would get into SUCH trouble when we tried it, lol! Yikes.

    Glad your baby got home safely. I'm the same way with my pride of cats and especially out here in the middle of the rurals and forests.

    Sia McKye OVER COFFEE

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  5. Awesome advice. Truth is very important to me too, and I think it's such an important theme for writers, for don't we search for truth within our fiction?

    Great post - happily blitzing you today!
    If I'm early, apologies, but I work on Aussie time :)

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  6. If people are going to trust you, they have to see your integrity, including how you handle truth, falsehood, and "grey" matters.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!
    Bears Noting
    Life in the Urban Forest (poetry)

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  7. I agree with the spirit of what you're saying. And yes, you can usually make out from the body language whether a person is telling the truth or no.
    However, I wouldn't go so far to distrust a person who tries to spare my feelings and is not totally "honest" with me- at least over unimportant things like "Do I look nice in this/does this color suit me" stuff. I too am not totally honest when someone asks me these kinds of questions- if they're happy wearing something or doing something, so be it!
    However, in more important things, like matters related to money/investments, relationships, career changes, yes, brutal honesty is required.
    I think you have to be true to yourself, and discover the truth for yourself.
    Hope all this is not too confusing- random musings from a truth seeker! :-)

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  8. I agree and was going to say something similar to what Andrew and other commenters already mentioned. Truth, honesty--yes, but people shouldn't use it as an excuse to be hurtful.
    Good to meet you and have an awesome day! :D

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  9. Good to meet you, Kirsten. I think lies never work - except for the 'does my bum look big in this?' sort... certainly in the publishing world, lies are very destructive and can damage a writer's confidence. I have had destructive reviews posted by other writers purely to enhance their own books. It;a pain, but, as you say, it eventually backfires upon them...

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  10. Sensible piece of advice Kirsten :)

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  11. I agree with you completely, it can be hard to say and hear, but the truth shall always have a better outcome in the long run. Came for the Blog Blitz, stayed for the awesome blog :).

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  12. I tell you, keeping up on the comments/visits is always way harder than keeping up on the posts!

    Shannon at The Warrior Muse

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  13. Honesty is definitely the best policy.

    Dave
    Dave Wrote This

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  14. I think there's honesty and then there's honesty for the sake of being mean. There's never a reason to be mean with your honesty but being honest is always the best bet.

    Dark Thoughts Blog

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  15. Yes the truth is the best unless its going to hurt someone. You've been blitzed!

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  16. The truth is always better than "blowing smoke". So glad I had a chance to Blog Blitz ya! I have found a new blog to follow. Good luck with those articles.

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  17. The truth is always better than "blowing smoke". So glad I had a chance to Blog Blitz ya! I have found a new blog to follow. Good luck with those articles.

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  18. Good morning! Great advice, Kristen. Happy Blitz Day! : )

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  19. Hello, Kristen! You are so right. Honesty is so important for healthy relationships. The truth always reveals itself in the end. It's better to be honest from the start.

    Hope you're having a great week!!

    Happy reading and writing! from Laura Marcella @ Wavy Lines

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  20. Hi Kristin! I think our world would be a much better place if more people valued honesty. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, and I hope you enjoy being blog blitzed today! :)

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  21. Great advice! Happy blog blitz day :)

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  22. I couldn't agree with you more. It's nearly impossible for me to lie. I was just telling someone about serving on a jury. It was going to be a hassle and I had a few excuses I could've used, but I didn't want to say something that wasn't true. So I didn't and got chosen. In the end, it was a rewarding experience.

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  23. I agree this is great post! Happy blog blitz day! :)

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  24. I agree with Sia - it's too hard to remember! But I've always believed in telling the truth. Tactfully, of course.
    And happy Blog Blitz day!!! If you thought you were behind on comments before...

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  25. I will be honest and say you are being blitzed! :)

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  26. I'm big on being honest. Great post. And I'm also behind on comments! Now you're about to be swamped! ;) No need to comment back. Enjoy your Blog Blitz day!!

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  27. I completely agree! This is great advice - not just for writers, but for life in general. One of the most vital steps to success is that the people around you be honest so that you can grow, and the same holds true for friends and family.

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  28. What awesome advice! Being honest is so important. Happy Blitz day!

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  29. I have checked out several of your posts. I love them. There is definitely something to the focus on one thing at a time. And your water post was super. I think we all have things to overcome.

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  30. Kristen

    it's good advice and a good practice. A quality that I believe people are too easily letting go of today. It really is nice to meet people of quality on-line

    Enjoy being blitzed today - don't feel obligated to comment back to us this is your day to be appreciated!!!

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  31. Honesty is important. Very important. If olny more of us were more sincere and more open to each other!

    It's also a shame that there are many who prefer the illusions and lies instead of sincere opinions and advice...

    A beautiful post!

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  32. Some great advice here. Happy blitz day!

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  33. I agree. Honesty is so important. However, I don't always give my honest opinion unless they ask for it. Some people don't want to hear honesty for some reason. Happy blitz day!

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  34. I agree, honesty and integrity is something that should be a part of everyone's life. I struggle trying to get this idea through to the freshmen I teach. Thank you for sharing :) Happy blitz day!! I'm following your blog now :)

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  35. I just close my eyes a lot more than I ever did... you have a great bit of solid advice... Happy Blitz Day!

    Jeremy [Retro]
    Oh No, Let's Go... Crazy

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  36. I think honest -is- the best policy, but one can still be tactful in doing so.

    Have a fun Blitz Day!!!

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  37. A code I always live by, otherwise bad "Karma" gets you in the end! I just became a new follower and I hope you enjoy being Blitzed!

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  38. A good, solid piece of advice.
    The truth is that your inbox is about to explode------------!
    Happy Blog Blitz Day! ENJOY!

    Writer In Transit

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  39. Great advice! And yes, Happy Blitz Day!

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  40. First, sorry about the progress with responding to comments that you were behind on - it's about to get worse :)

    Honesty has been on my mine a great deal lately. I'm sick of people withholding information because of a perception that they are dodging the bullet by not being forthcoming. I used to let people lie to me all the time, now, very little if I know.

    Have a great day! Fun blog! New follower :)

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  41. Kristen. I so agree that honesty is essential to one's peace of mind, character stability and development, relationships and overall good of society. Though I believe honestly should be tempered with gentleness and grace sometimes, it is still always good to be honorable by being honest. Enjoy your blitz. Great blog. God bless, Maria from Delight Directed Living

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  42. So glad you're still posting every day even after April.
    Oh and congrats on being blitzed!!!! :)

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  43. I agree that honesty is the best policy. But it's sometimes hard, especially when you don't want to hurt their feelings.
    So sometimes... I'd rather not say anything than to offer an opinion that may hurt.

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  44. Relationships are built on trust. And trust is earned. Its important to be able to lie down at the end of the day and go to sleep with a good conscience. And to do that one must have relationships that are healthy with open and honest communications.

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  45. Hi, Kristen,

    So happy to have met you during the A-Z!

    Honesty is such a rare and wonderful quality... Wear it proudly.

    Happy Blitz day!

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  46. blitz day - glad to meet you. Honesty is the best way to go, but (and there's always a but....) sometimes a teensy white lie is useful and I'm able to live with myself for doing it. It's a very fine line. Have a good day!

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  47. "Honesty is the best policy" was always drummed into us as kids. I am also visiting from Blog Blitz.

    JO ON FOOD, MY TRAVELS AND A SCENT OF CHOCOLATE

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  48. Great post! I especially like what you said about honesty being more than just truth, it is also about removing deception. Such an important point. Hello from the blitz!

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  49. Hi! Stopping by for the blog blitz! Great post! Honesty just makes things a lot easier, too

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  50. Hi Kristen, This is excellent advice and something we should all remember. It would definitely be a wiser and better world if more people were truthful. I'll be sure to come back to visit again. Thank you for sharing your wonderful post with us.

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  51. The only way to stay out of the grey...where confusion reigns supreme...is on the honest path. :)

    You didn't get that Thursday post out quick enough did you. Well, this should keep you busy instead. You've been BLITZED!! :)

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  52. I appreciate you linking honesty to living with honor. Being truthful involves speaking the truth as well as being true to yourself.
    Glad to find you through the Blog Blitz!

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  53. HAPPY BLITZ DAY! I commented and followed yesterday before I found out you were the BLITZ GIRL so I am ahead of the game for a change!

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  54. Nice to meet you thru the blog blitz - and I really love this post. It is so important to be honest with ourselves as well as with others.
    karen

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  55. 'Honesty is always the best policy'. The deep sense of honesty that you talk about here is hard for most people, but I agree 100% in the end is pays off for everyone. Great Post. Impressed that you can keep posting every single day.

    BTW - have you noticed yet, that you've been blitzed.

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  56. Happy blog blitz, Kristen!!! I agree - living with honor is something we should all strive for, even when a white lie seems tempting. It's always better to be honest and straightforward. I know I'd want people to be honest with me!

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  57. Lying only hurts us.

    Happy Blog Blitz day!

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  58. Nice to meet you through the Blog Blitz! what a great post :)

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  59. Great to meet you through the Blog Blitz! Loved your post and look forward to following your blog. Happy Blitz Day! :)

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  60. Well, the fact you just got Blitz'ed isn't going to help you catch up on comments. I wish I had heard about this bloghop because I love the questions and the responses from everyone. To be honest is the best piece of advice.

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    1. If you want to be in on the next Blitz - http://dlcruisingaltitude.blogspot.com/2013/03/blog-blitz-wanna-join.html

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  61. I agree with this. This is how we make our marriage work. And it's easy to be honest when you know the other person isn't meaning to hurt you.

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  62. I think being honest is one of the most important thing we can teach our children. It's the foundation for so mauch else.

    And happy blog blitz day!

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  63. An excellent piece of advice. I always so strive for honesty.

    Greetings from the Blitz!

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  64. You're so right. I've told lies that (I thought) were no big deal in the beginning and let me tell you. They were.

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  65. Lies tend to spiral out of control. I agree that honesty is best.

    Happy blitz day! :D

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  66. Good advice. Honesty is so important. I find it funny when people lie about even the simplest things. Watching them caught up in all the lies they've told is quite amusing. Surely it must take more energy than it's worth.

    Happy blitz. :)

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  67. I couldn't agree more Honesty really is the best policy, even when it's hard to do at first!

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  68. The letter "h" in my a to z challenge was HONESTY. Yes, I still believe it's the best policy:) Great piece of advice:)

    Happy Blog Blitz!!!

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  69. Yes, honesty is important. But the truth isn't necessarily meant for everyone at all times. Happy blitz!

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  70. Very wise words. Doing the right thing always keeps us at our best, our honor intact, and if everyone did it the world would be a much better place by the positivity alone. Have a wonderful Blitz day! Looking forward to following your blog now, absolutely loved this post ;)

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  71. You're about to be wayyy behind on your comments, friend :)
    Happy Blitz Day!

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  72. I am too honest about myself to others, though. I think I'm in such a hurry for people to understand me that I tell them way more honesty than they need and it's TMI!

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  73. HAPPY BLITZ DAY, honesty does pay.

    Yvonne.

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  74. Happy Blitz Day! I completely agree with you. Having a hard time with a "friend" right now because I know she's been lying to me continuously for about a year about a certain issue, and I'm just plain too wiped out to deal with it right now. But it sure is eating at me and she's lost my respect...sigh. People are so complicated...

    Tina @ Life is Good

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  75. I agree. Honesty is so important. My number one pet peeve is being lied to.

    Happy Blitz Day!

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  76. Your blog has been BLITZED!!!!

    Honesty is always very important, while dealing with others. It's easy to think that others will believe us, but they always know the truth, irrespective of whether they openly show or not. Being dishonest is one of the fastest way to lose friends. And having a honest friend is one of the best thing one can hope for.

    Destination Infinity

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  77. I hate lying to people, and I hate it when I'm lied to - honesty is always the best policy. Like you said, you feel better when you tell the truth anyway.

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  78. Positively wonderful post! Couldn't be more true! I especially appreciate the part about removing deception. Omission creates just as many problems as flat out lying. Lies are lies, regardless of how they happen. So glad I signed up for DL's Blog Blitz because it helped me discover this post. Happy Blitz Day! :)

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  79. Great advice and so true. Happy Blitz Day!

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  80. Happy blog Blitz Day--and that's the truth!! Great post, btw.

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  81. I was also raised to be completely honest. I'm trying to raise my children to do the same. Happy blitz :)

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  82. Bam - such a perfect positive message for a blitz day - Be true to yourself and honest to everyone else is my personal motto. Mind you I do conceal things. If you ask me what I'm doing, the answer will only reveal as much as I want you to know, for example I might answer sitting in the sun, but I'll only tell certain people where.

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  83. To be honest with you....I'm disappointed that you are so late in posting for Thursday and that you haven't replied to the comments yet! LOL! Blitzed!
    (and if this shows up twice...my finger slipped when I was trying to shut down another screen...says it published!)

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  84. Yep, like the old lady learned when she lost all her customers and had to close her teahouse after she tried to up her profits by reusing the bags over and over: Honest tea is the best policy.

    Nice to meetcha. You've been blitzed!!! Enjoy.

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  85. Thank you for that post. Being adult and mature requires thruth and authenticity. Telling the truth to someone grants being to the other person. It gives them the opportunity to deal with what there is to deal with for themselves and the relationship. Lying, keeps everyone small. It is selfish to think thata someone cannot take it or that we don't want to hurt them. We just don't want to look bas and avoid the consequences of what is so.
    Have a great blitz day! :)

    With great respect! A.

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  86. Dishonesty keeps you chained to the lies you’ve told in the past, each lie added is another link that weighs you down. Only the truth will set you free. Happy blog blitz day! :-)

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  87. The longer you go without being honest, the worse it is later.

    BLITZ!

    ~MPL
    http://pepperwords.com

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  88. Awesome post! Decided to blitz this one and today's ;)

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  89. Super post. Love the layout of your blog too! :-)

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  90. Great advice! Honesty is so important and not just when it comes to telling the truth. One of my biggest pet peeves is people who cheat at card games or board games. It's definitely not life or death, but I think it says a lot about a person that they would be dishonest about something so trivial just to be the winner. Just my humble opinion. ;) Great post!

    Happy Blitz Day!! :)

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  91. A lot of problems could be avoided if people were honest about things from the jump. A problem can get worse if one is dishonest to try to avoid offending someone or creating a weird situation.

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  92. I just wished you a Happy Blog Blitz on your latest post... but a lot of my fellow Blitzers seem to be congregating round this post.

    So I'll comment again...

    Happy Blog Blitz Day! :)

    Chippy

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  93. Happy Blog Blitz day! Great post. I always try my best to be as honest as I can. Some days are easier than others though.

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  94. Truth is a good motto. Goes along with treating people with respect.

    .......dhole

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  95. "A piece of advice" is a great idea for a blog post. I kind of feel like every blog post should be some kind of advice, some kind of useful thing for the reader, not just talk about ourselves, so I agree! That's great advice!

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  96. I definitely believe in honesty and glad to see a fellow blogger believing the same. You've been blitzed and adding you to my blog roll.

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  97. I agree completely, besides it's too hard to keep track of untruths. I wish everyone lived with honor and integrity. Hope you're enjoying the blast!

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  98. I was brought up with the 'honesty is the best policy' motto and have tried to install that in my children :)

    My first blog blitz post!

    Suzanne @ Suzannes Tribe

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  99. I try really hard not to lie. Especially since I have kids and they watch everything you do! But I still catch myself doing it, but at least by trying not to, I do it less.

    And honor is something we need to return to. We need a return to integrity and stop making excuses for everything and everyone.

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  100. Such a good thing to live by. I'm such an honest person, and I have such a strong conscience. When I was a student I found a wallet in a toilet cubicle with £90 cash in it. I sat there for ages trying to decide what to do; I really could've done with the money. But I knew whatever I bought with it would make me feel guilty, so I handed it in to the staff, money and all.

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  101. So true, Kristen. Honesty and integrity are important qualities.

    Take care!

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  102. Honesty is definitely the best policies! Too many people get hurt by lies :(

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  103. Such wise advice! I needed to hear that today. Jesus said "the Truth will set you free," and "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life--no one comes to the Father except through me." I think we have a pretty good example of what truthfulness is in him! Thank for this!

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  104. great advice. I am trying to teach my son about honesty and how important it is. I will be checking back to read more of your posts

    Blog blitz

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  105. You're right. Telling the truth hurts sometimes, but it's worth it. Thanks for the reminder!

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  106. Hi Kristen, I came for the blitz but I'm staying for the great content.

    Honesty tempered with kindness and tact is always the best policy. I've discovered that what I may consider rude or mean, others consider honesty and seek. And those who point out that lies find their way back to haunt you are correct. Truth is always the best policy.

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  107. If you always tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you lied about. Quote from ... I can't remember. See, I can barely remember anything, so I might as well keep it simpler and just tell the truth. Otherwise, I'd have to remember the truth, the lies, and what was what.

    Great post.

    Bradley coming from Pass the Sour Cream.

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  108. That's right. The lies always come back to haunt the people who tell them. Happy Blog Blitz Day!

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  109. I grew up with a habitual liar, and it is one of my biggest pet peeves! Honesty is always best.

    Allison (Geek Banter)

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  110. Great post. Honesty is one of those core values that should never be compromised... honestly. Happy Blitz Day!!

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  111. Honesty is liberating. I just hate it when some people use a policy of honesty to be purposely mean to someone. I think that kind of meanness ultimately destroys the honor that living an honest life builds.

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  112. Honesty is always the best policy. It feels good, too, when you're known as the honest one. Happy Blog Blitz Day!!!

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  113. Honesty and truthfulness should be coupled with love, respect, and tact. It's better to say nothing than to lie. And even if you have to say something truthful that could be harsh, you should do your best to deliver the truth with love and respect. Ask: how would I like to be told what I'm about to tell someone?

    A good and thought-provoking article, Kristen. And happy Blog Blitz Day! :D

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  114. Great post. Happy blog blitz day.

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  115. I really agree about lying. I lied recently.. sigh. My friend invited me out to a bar that was country. I said I wanted to go... but I don't like country so later I told her I was sick so I wasn't going to go. Then my husband, myself and two friends went out to dinner. And I told my husband hopefully I don't see my friend here..hahahah. Well of course my friend and her husband did go out to eat at the same place. I don't know why I didn't just tell her I didn't want to go.. I don't even know why I lied! Happy Blitz Day. Great advice!
    Angie
    Angela's Anxious Life

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  116. Hi, Kristen,
    As we say here. Honesty is the best policy! Hope you eventually get caught up with your comments. ;)

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  117. Honesty is indeed the best policy. Good for you. :)

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  118. This is so true. Lies will always catch up with us. There's no point playing with them. Happy Blitz day!

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  119. Your post is so true. Happy Blitz Day!!!

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  120. Happy Blitzing! :) I hope you're loving it!

    I am such a stickler about truths vs. white lies or lies period. I always, ALWAYS say "get rid of the grey and make it black and white!" Makes things soooooo much easier in life!

    Very happy to read your blog. So inspiring!

    Take care...

    -Michelle

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  121. Hi - I'm Blitzing you! Hope you've been having a great time meeting all the bloggers.

    I tend to veer toward bluntness myself, but I work hard to serve it up with diplomacy. Basically, whatever my word choices may be, anyone looking at me can tell what I really think, anyway. So honesty is my policy by default.

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  122. Hi - Blitzing you! Hope you had a great day!!! I absolutely agree with you that honesty is the best policy. And your mom sounds like a wise woman - I agree that a person's honor is one of the only thing you can take to the grave.

    Happy blitz day!

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  123. I love that! Honor is the only thing you keep when you die. I had a roommate who taught me what honor really means, and no surprise, she was a reader. She learned from books about heroes and honor, and I'm thankful every day for her example to me. Honor is actually a rare commodity these days. Blitzed before midnight on the Pacific coast!

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  124. A bit late but better late than never. Hope you had an excellent day yesterday and one even better today! You've been blitzed. :)

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  125. Looks like I am a bit late for the blitz. I am in New Zealand and our dates are nearly a day ahead, then I don't want to be early and I end up late. That's my honesty for today. Happy Blog blitz.

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  126. I hope you enjoyed your blitz day :)

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  127. It's really hard for me to get these things right, because I live in the southern hemisphere and I'm always well ahead of when we're meant to start blitzing ;) So I have missed most of them so far! Anyway, I'm here BELATEDLY to join in the blitz. Congrats on being chosen for this fun :D

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